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teresaveronicaisabellaleja
🕯 It has been 5 months since beloved Dayton has been unexpectedly taken from us.
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areilly
Well old friend you set sail much sooner than I had thought you would and I still can’t believe you have left us. Please know that you are missed. I think of you every week day as we work to continue your legacy at VCFA. We have your great example before us and will always keep the indelible mark of character, integrity and dedication as the pillars of the firm you built. Thank you for putting so much trust in us these past years and for the countless lessons along the way. You were a great mentor and partner but an even better friend these twenty plus years. I’ll miss our evenings in the office sitting in the conference room sharing stories, joke telling, debating the politics of the day, and sharing thoughts on life, family, and our so many friends in common. It is these moments of both humor and seriousness that I will struggle to live without as I thought they would go on for many more years. I’m sad to see you go my friend but I know you’ll keep teaching me things even in your absence as I will often use your wisdom as a compass for years to come.
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teresaveronicaisabellaleja
🕯 A candle was lit in memory.
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brookewilliams
Uncle Dayton, I can’t even believe that I’m having to write this. Although you may not have been family through blood, you impacted our family as significantly as anyone could have. You were like a brother to my parents, and a extra parent for both Eliza and I. You were one of the most genuine people I have ever met, who was never afraid to be honest, no matter how difficult it was to hear. You made such a tremendous impact on others and were always willing to find a solution to anyone’s problems. You were always a role model for me and showed me whats it’s like to carry yourself as a gentleman. You had been so successful throughout your business career, but never failed to share that success and make an impact on those who needed it the most. As someone who I’ve known since I was a baby, this is one of the hardest goodbyes I’ve ever had to make. You always worked hard to do whatever you could offer guidance and help me find success during my young adult life. I hope I’ll be able to make you proud, and I know you’ll be looking down over me. Until we meet again Uncle D ❤
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pstensrud
🕯 Darling Dayton was definitely one of a kind! We first met after winning a silent auction cruise on his Gunga Din. Although a but nervous about not knowing us, he was gracious, generous and it was the beginning of a very, very fond friendship and many good times.. We will miss him.
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teresaveronicaisabellaleja
Dayton would share John D. Rockefeller's Credo with anyone who stepped in his office. He had copies made of it and the poem "If", handing them out to friends, family, and strangers alike. I am posting it here, so his friends can read it and by gently adhering to the credo's and the poem's values we can continue Daytons legacy of just, upright, fair living, respecting God's Natural Laws.
I believe in the supreme worth of the individual and in his right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.
I believe that every right implies a responsibility; every opportunity, an obligation; every possession, a duty.
I believe that the law was made for man and not man for the law; that government is the servant of the people and not their master.
I believe in the dignity of labor, whether with head or hand; that the world owes no man a living but that it owes every man an opportunity to make a living.
I believe that thrift is essential to well ordered living and that economy is a prime requisite of a sound financial structure, whether in government, business or personal affairs.
I believe that truth and justice are fundamental to an enduring social order.
I believe in the sacredness of a promise, that a man’s word should be as good as his bond; that character - not wealth or power or position - is of supreme worth.
I believe that the rendering of useful service is the common duty of mankind and that only in the purifying fire of sacrifice is the dross of selfishness consumed and the greatness of the human soul set free.
I believe in an all-wise and all-loving God, named by whatever name, and that the individual’s highest fulfillment, greatest happiness, and widest usefulness are to be found in living in harmony with His will.
I believe that love is the greatest thing in the world; that it alone can overcome hate; that right can and will triumph over might.
by John D. Rockefeller, Jr.
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areilly
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teresaveronicaisabellaleja
In mid March 2020 we had dinner and Dayton insisted the band at the restaurant plays an Australian Ballad, "Waltzing Matilda" by Slim Dusty. To Your Joy, They Did. This song will always remind me of you.
Watch the video
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eliza williams
🕯 I cannot recall a major moment in my life that you haven’t been there for and I’ve never once imagined my life without you. Uncle D, I am so blessed to have called you my godfather but, really, you’ve been a second father to me. I’ll miss calling to wish you a Happy Godfather’s Day and our impromptu calls to check-in on each other. We always marveled at the fact that we were living in the same place. I’ll never forget one bone-chilling winter day when we got together for an event in NYC. As we were leaving, we spotted an elderly man who had fallen on the cement steps and appeared to have broken his hip. While you called 911, I waited with him. You and I knelt there comforting him until an ambulance arrived. We got his name and you promised to call and check in on him later. I saw a part of myself in you that day; you were generous and thoughtful at every moment. I’ve never met someone with a more accurate moral compass. You always challenged those closest to you to do what was morally and ethically sound. You were a man of integrity and passion. Being on the water with you was one of my favorite things - and you had confidence in me being at the helm. I’ll always hold you closest to my heart and will cherish our memories until we meet again. Fair winds, Uncle D, I hope you drop anchor somewhere really beautiful!
All my love,
Eliza
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carolwilliams
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algchildfund
The ChildFund family mourns the loss of Dayton Carr. Dayton was a longtime sponsor of children in our programs in Bolivia and Zambia. In addition, Dayton’s generosity supported our work in early childhood development, gender equality and vocational training. We were so fortunate for Dayton’s compassionate giving and his very warm heart. He said many times it was his goal to do something every day to help those who were less fortunate than himself. Over the years Dayton became a friend. I enjoyed our conversations, his energy and passion for ChildFund’s mission to help children grow up to be healthy, educated, skilled and safe. Go well my friend. Your legacy lives on in the lives of children you made better. Anne Lynam Goddard,President and CEO, ChildFund International
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latripp
I left my well entrenched life in Boston for NYC because of Dayton. We lived together for almost 8 months and when we split up I ended up buying an apartment up the street at 400 E 52nd Street. I gave him the best damn surprise 40th Birthday party, complete with a wonderful belly dancer. He never stopped mentioning it when we spoke, albeit, sporadically.
We know Dayton loved woman, I am sorry he never figure out how to settle down with just one permanently, he would have enjoyed being a true, full-time, Dad. I remember well that he was a regular at FAO Schwartz, and savored sending birthday and Christmas presents and cards, all fueling that wonderful smile, hoping it would thrill the child, on the receiving end.
I lost touch these last 20 years...but he did call once while I lived in Westport and wanted to make sure I was happy, and that my son was doing well. He told me it was "important".
He believed in chivalry although his demonstration of it was not always appreciated. Like the time he turned up at my 32nd Birthday party and kicked my then boyfriend in the balls, with 40 guests as witnesses, at the Sky Bar/Clarke Cooke house. I think it even made the local newspaper and David Ray, when I last saw him two years ago, recalled and laughed, at the story.
So glad his firm will live on, he so loved by my memory, making successful, complicated deals.
I will have a glass of sherry in his honor and make sure when Covid is over, to give a firm handshake that would merit a Dayton's thumbs up. RIP Dayton, you made so many special memories for so many of us.
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teresaveronicaisabellaleja
🕯 A candle was lit in memory.
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carolwilliams
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teresaveronicaisabellaleja
🕯 A candle was lit in memory.
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rivkapw
Dayton was my first real boss in Corporate America and I have been in his employ for over 25 years, at VCFA Group. When I met him, I was just a college student forging my path in this world. Dayton showed interest in my life and the lives of all his employees, offering advice and help to those close to him. He showed care and compassion for everyone he met. He joined us at our wedding and celebrated the birth of our children and their life events with us. I am sad that he will no longer be able to share future celebrations with us. My children will never forget sailing with him in NYC on a tugboat. He always had a smile on his face and was a pleasure to see in the office and talk to whenever he was in town. Our firm, and I, will miss our fearless leader and I hope we can continue his legacy and continue his dream for VCFA. He will surely be missed. --Rivka Weinberger
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napo22
I want to thank Dayton's good friend Renee Monroe for creating this on-line memorial for my brother. I had spoken to Dayton on the prior Thursday and he sounded well so this was unexpected and a shock, I think, to us all.Although I'm not a sailor, Dayton and I shared an appreciation for nature and the outdoors. I remember one cold night when we slept in the back of a station wagon in Glacier National Park. We did a lot of hiking at Pt. Reyes, a beautiful park north of San Francisco. I remember one time when a raven stole a sandwich Dayton had put down to walk down to the beach. He was seriously upset at that bird.Although we had different views on many subjects, we had good conversations every week. I will miss those spirited talks.Dayton had many interest besides sailing and supported many charities. He cared so much about children and the International Children's Fund, and was a godfather to several children.I still find it difficult to believe he is gone. But there is consolation in remembering his humor and good spirits.Brian Carr
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kmussette
I've know Dayton my entire life. His parents and my grandparents were the best of friends in San Francisco and San Diego. He remembers watching my mother and father running around a yard flirting with each other at 19, before they were married. Dayton and I attended the "anti-poaching of animals in Africa" events in NYC together. His heart was there. He used to tell me all the time what a great spirit I have. But as you can see by this photo I took a few years ago on the 4th of July, he had the halo. His spirit was undeniable. He is soaring on high right now with kindred angels, no doubt. He will will always be loved and missed.
